The college experience is generally touted as the best years of your life. Sure, youre there to get an education and theres no denying that your classes can be difficult and demanding at times, but strangely, the simple act of learning how to say no is often one of the hardest things to discover.
If you have ever wanted to turn down an invitation but wound up attending an event or joining an organization because you felt too guilty to say no, youre not alone. Read more and learn how to say No thanks! without driving yourself crazy.
For most traditional-age students, college is a whirlwind of activity. Most full-time students physically spend just fifteen hours or less in class each week, and many confess to studying far less often than recommended. This generally allows plenty of time for a part-time job, hitting the clubs or going to parties, and having an active Greek life or participating in other school groups.
But having a bit of time on your hands doesnt mean you should run yourself ragged or give up on sleep. According to the Mayo Clinic, adults should aim for seven to nine hours of sleep each night. The University of Georgias University Health Center points out that students who average six or fewer hours of sleep each night feel more tired (obviously!) as well as sad and stressed out.
Even if you are getting enough sleep or have enough time on your hands, its perfectly acceptable to choose a night home alone with the TV over going to College Night at the bar with your friends. Just as distant relatives who dont even get along spend holidays together out of tradition or guilt, people accept invitations they dont really want to for a few different reasons:
The truth is, spreading yourself too thin or lying to get out of something can backfire and cause more problems than simply turning down an invite. Saying yes even though you want to say no will most likely cause internal resentment against the person who invited you, which may confuse or anger them once they realize your heart just isnt it inwhatever it is.
Saying no politely might be tough for you at first, but it is possible. It takes confidence and a bit of nerve, but theres nothing selfish about occasionally putting your own needs first. Remember these tips:
Agreeing to do anything and everything during college might seem harmless enough, but the habit could actually cause you to get into dangerous situations, such as going on a date with just someone you dont like or someone you are afraid of, taking drugs, or getting involved in something illegal. Those activities could cause much bigger problems than schedule conflicts!
Melissa Rhone earned her Bachelor of Music in Education from the University of Tampa. She resides in the Tampa Bay area and enjoys writing about college, pop culture, and epilepsy awareness.
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