Going off to college (or even living at home for college) is often considered opening the door to your futurehigh school is over and its time to move on to new experiences.
For some teens and young adults, college is also the first time they experience the death of a loved one. Dealing with grief and loss is difficult for people of all ages, but it can be incredibly tough for studentsespecially those who are also learning how to live with everyday college stress.
Whether a friend or family member has lost their battle with a chronic illness or a tragic accident occurred, a loved ones death is an overwhelming experience. Bereavement is the period of grief and mourning after a death. It is part of the normal process of reacting to a loss and is to be expected.
Grief, or grieving, is our response to death or loss. People can experience emotional, physical, and spiritual reactions while they are grieving. Grief can certainly be caused by the death of a loved one or even a pet, but we can also grieve over the loss of a relationshipsomewhat common during college, when many high school sweethearts decide to break upor when we receive other life-altering news, such as a close friend moving away or being diagnosed with an incurable illness.
Grief is usually an unhappy or painful emotion and everyone grieves differently in their own ways. Many people have trouble concentrating or sleeping while they are grieving. Others have trouble eating or just feel cheated, guilty, or even relieved if someone was suffering with a painful, chronic illness.
The National Institutes of Health (NIH) explains that there are common stages of grief and mourning. These stages do not necessarily occur in one specific order and some stages can even occur at the time same:
The grieving process takes time. It is gradual. Some people come to terms with death or loss sooner than others, but grief can be unpredictable. A song, photograph, or special memory can trigger strong feelings of sadness. You may even feel guilty about getting over the situation too quickly, as if it were disrespectful, or feel guilty about arguments you had with the person you have lost.
Losing anyone who is an important part of your life during college can be traumatic, but dealing with the death of a parent during college can be incredibly debilitating. College journalism scholar Dan Reimold dealt with this delicate issue in USA Today College, quoting The Daily Kansan editor Kelly Stroda, who did a series on college and death: College students who lose a parent are affected emotionally, psychologically, physically, academically and financially. At the very time they are about to launch independent lives, they lose the people they rely on most for direction.
If you are in college when you experience the loss of a parent or other personal tragedy, you may want to:
Dealing with grief or loss caused by death or tragedy is difficult at any stage of life, but Red and Black contributor Sarah Saltzman writes that Living with Loss by researchers at Indiana University of Pennsylvania finds college life is geared toward academics and social activities, which leaves little room to make it through the grieving process. If something happens while you are a new college student, you may feel overwhelmed. Remember to try your best to take care of yourself and accept help from others if you need it.
Melissa Rhone earned her Bachelor of Music in Education from the University of Tampa. She resides in the Tampa Bay area and enjoys writing about college, pop culture, and epilepsy awareness.
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